Mama Needs a Break!!!
I want to preface this post with the fact that I realize I am not the only one feeling this way right now. I feel exhausted, burnt out, lazy, sad, and just kind of blah in general. Not all the time, but being at home this long is so isolating and just straight up weird. I realize I'm a stay at home mom so not that much has changed for us, but at the same time it feels like everything has changed! I miss just going and grabbing a cup of coffee with a friend, seeing another mom and venting for five seconds.
I find myself in need of a mental, emotional, or physical reset most days. Don't you wish there was actually a "reset" button? I want to share some of the ways I decompress and reset when I need it. Some of these will seem like no brainers but even I forget to do some of these things sometimes.
1) Stay freaking hydrated. Seems stupid to say this but some days when I'm running on empty, I realize, "When was the last time I had a glass of water today?" If I feel like I really need a minute, I start with a glass of water.
2) Watch a show or movie by yourself or with your partner after the kids go to sleep. We pretty much live in Wiggle Town over here, and it was a while since I got into a "new show". I ended up picking Married at First Sight and did a deep dive into all the seasons. It was therapeutic (and hilarious).
3) Diffuse some oils. This is coming from someone who used to think essential oils were a bunch of hogwash, but now if I walk into the kitchen and smell something so relaxing or energizing, I feel like I can actually function. It's wild. I've had a few people ask about the diffuser I use via Instagram, so I'm linking it here! If oils aren't your thing, light a candle in your favorite scent. If you've been curious about essential oils but don't know where to start, check out Revive. (I think that link takes $10 off $50 if you are a new customer!!) These are the ones I use and the best part is they are not a MLM!
4) Take a HOT freaking shower. Wash your hair. It's sad that taking a shower has made it onto the self care list for moms, but here we are. I usually come out feeling like a new woman.
5) Put on a feel good playlist, or you know just listen to "Karma Chameleon" on a loop. Always boosts my spirits!
6) Carve out some time to work on a new hobby. Working on a project or trying something new always makes me feel super refreshed, and kind of excited! Since "staying at home" became the norm I redid my entire craft corner to feel more inspired, and have been painting a ton. I find when I'm focused on something for myself it helps clear my thoughts so much. It's easy for me to put off things I want to try or learn because I'm "busy" running around after Pearl or I get a little lost in the mindless scrolling of my phone. When am I putting it off for? When Pearl is grown? Do I want to be in my 50's and just now trying some of my new hobbies or projects? No way! Sometimes I'm just feeling guilty for not doing the dishes or laundry, so I decided to stop feeling guilty, take a few minutes to do something for myself. I noticed I'm a lot more inspired to do the dishes or laundry after that.
7) Check in with an old friend. Can you think of someone you've lost touch with that you wish you hadn't? Reach out to them. Chances are they have thought of you too. I often get so caught up in my own life and my own thoughts that I end up losing touch with friends. I've had to make a conscious effort to reach out more and check in. It helps me to "reconnect" with myself too.
8) Put your phone away for a little. Personally, during this "stay at home" time I've been way too reliant on my phone. I find forcing myself to put it down helps me immensely. While I do think it's important to stay informed, it's also important to take a mental break too. There is so much happening right now, and so much of it is depressing and heavy. It's okay to put the phone down.
9) Read something that will lift you up. For me, that is the Bible. I've recommended this Bible study before about JOY and I really recommend it as a good place to start. If you are looking for something non-religious I really, really recommend You Are a Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living an Awesome Life by Jen Sincero. I read this a few years ago and it literally changed my life. I'm not kidding. Read that one.
10) Last but definitely not least, getting some FRESH AIR is the biggest thing for me. Breathing in some fresh air and feeling the sunshine on my face. It's healing. Get out for a walk, take a hike, learn to fish, whatever. Even if it's just sitting out on your back deck for ten minutes with the baby monitor while the baby naps, I promise it will be the biggest reset.
I know these aren't a "cure all" but these are the few things that help me when I'm feeling down in the dumps or like I really, really need a break. I hope they help you too. Or you know, you can just have a complete break and chop all your hair off with a pair of sewing scissors like I did. Just kidding!! I'd love to hear how you mentally, emotionally, and physically reset too.
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